NEW PARTNER, SERO-DISCORDANT
Different strategies work for different people. Find a good time when you won't be interrupted -- in the car, before dinner, in the morning -- but not in the throes of passion. Don't delay while waiting for the best moment, because no time will likely be easy. You can start off by telling him how you care about him and have something important to talk about. A good friend or new lover will be impressed and honored that you care about them enough to be forthcoming and direct about such an important issue. For more advice about talking about HIV with your partners, click here -- good info from the San Francisco HIV Disclosure Initiative.
Remember there are other STDs out there in addition to HIV, so both of you should get a complete STD/HIV check-up and until then practice safer sex, including condom use for anal sex. Congratulations on finding your special someone, and kudos for being responsible to the community.
To your health,
TALKING TO PARTNERS ADVICE
Keep our community healthy. Stop the spread by talking about STDs.